Quick, tell me.
How do you see yourself?
Do you look at yourself with critical eyes, noticing shortcomings, failures, and missteps? Do you focus on the not-good-enoughs?
Or, do you see yourself with kind eyes? Do you focus on your best qualities and accomplishments?
Can you hold both together, accepting who you are: a work in progress, on a journey, not-quite-there-yet, but doing-the-best-you-can?
You are enough. You are a work of art, a precious treasure.
photo credit Molly Page
Here’s the thing, at least the way I see it:
We’re all much harder on ourselves than others are. At least, I’m much harder on myself than others are.
When I stop to listen to what others say about me, I sometimes find myself rejecting and discounting their kind words and praise, because all I can see are the not-good-enoughs, my flaws and imperfections.
While talking to a friend this week, I found myself discounting a compliment. She said to me, “Say you’re welcome.”
I stopped. I did that. I said “You’re welcome.”
And when I did that, something special happened. I started to see myself the way she was seeing me because I listened to what she was saying about me.
And sometimes that’s what we need. We need to see ourselves the way others see us by listening to what they say about us.
We need to do this with the wise and kind people in our lives.
And I need to do that, too, with God.
For example, this:
“The Lord your God is with you,
the Mighty Warrior who saves.
He will take great delight in you;
in his love he will no longer rebuke you,
but will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:17
That God sings over me, rejoices about me, and takes delight in me is a far better measure than my own inner critic.
Tell me something! How do you see yourself? How do you measure your worth? What wise words, sayings, or truth helps you silent your inner critic?
I am the founder/CEO of the Weaving Influence team, the author of Reach: Creating the Biggest Possible Audience for Your Message, Book, or Cause, and the host of the Book Marketing Action Podcast. I’m a wife and mom of three kids, and I enjoy running, reading, writing, coffee, and dark chocolate.