Leadership is risky.

When you lead others, you take relational risks.

Because anytime you lead others, the context for your leadership is relationships. Relationships equal potential. In relationships with others, you can find support, encouragement, collaboration, and friendship. With others, it is possible that you will accomplish great things, celebrate amazing success. But in relationships with others, you may also experience disappointment, hurt, and frustration.

As leaders, we take relational risks because we are convinced that the potential for great things from relationships far outweighs the risks. We don’t focus on our fear of rejection or disappointment. We risk again and again because we are convinced that the only way to accomplish our goals is by partnering with others to get things done.

This afternoon, I called my friend Lisa on the phone to check in with her. Lisa is one of the leaders in the homeschool co-op that I started, then left behind, in Chicago. They are gearing up for a new school year: adding new families, clarifying their vision for the group, and deepening working relationships.

While talking to Lisa, who is now one of my closest friends despite our geographical distance, a picture entered my mind of the day we first met, in the locker room at our local YMCA.

I had started several cooperative learning groups for my kids while living in Chicago. On the cold November day that I met Lisa, I happened to be on the lookout for new families to invite to our group. Several families had moved to the suburbs. Lisa seemed like the perfect fit – her kids ages matched my kids’ ages closely enough – and we seemed to share common values about parenting and educating our kids.

Inviting Lisa to join our co-op was risky. I had to take the initiative relationally as I sought to form a new friendship. I also had to communicate the vision of our group in a clear and compelling way. So, I risked rejection of myself, and I risked rejection of my idea, my vision, of joining with other families for fun and learning.

If not for that cold November day in the YMCA locker room, Lisa would not be leading the co-op this year, and I would not have the joy of her friendship.

Leadership is risky. But the risks are worthwhile.

I needed this reminder tonight, as I invite a group of near-strangers to join with me in starting a new learning cooperative for preschoolers. It’s not easy or comfortable to take the initiative to start something new, but I am excited about the potential and possibility that these new relationships possess.

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What relational risks do you take as a leader?

This was originally posted at Mountain State University LeaderTalk and is reposted with permission. 

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About Becky Robinson

I am the owner of Weaving Influence and the leader of the Weaving Influence team. We help authors and thought leaders grow their online influence. I am also a wife and mom of three daughters, and I enjoy running, reading, writing, a good cup of coffee, and dark chocolate.

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  • Wow. Well said. The reality is that as a leader I look back and I see a checker board of relationships that the risk worked out and others where it did not. The latter pain me a bit and it is hard to find others who understand this. This is one aspect of the loneliness of leadership. It is a great encouragement to know that I am not the only one. Taking the relational risk for me has a lot to do with timing. There are times where I pause because I know they are not ready, then others where I know they are, while others still where I do not have a blessed clue.
    As I grow as a leader these become more clear. The risk that I may take also becomes more clear, and that can allow some fear to creep in. The last part of this for me though. Is the longer I lead I am also seeing the potential more clear, and that Rocks!
    I look back and see some guys that I took the risk on and it paid off be for both of us. I am so glad they are where they are now.
    Thanks for this post – I am not the only one who weighs the risk and potential. While others may only see the risk, I am glad to know that there are others who see the potential and know it tips the scale.

  • interesting..i agree of as a leader we must take the risk..as a leader we have to accept all consequences in leadership..we have to overcome our fear of rejections and disappointment..we should have courage to deal with all the risk in leadership..thanks for the post..

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