3 Reasons to Stay Connected Even When Relationships Sour

3 Reasons to Stay Connected Even When Relationships Sour

Living life online means that when serious conflict occurs, you have one of two choices: you can end the relationship and make a clean break (unfriend, un-link, stop following, block) or you can stay connected.

I typically choose to stay connected, although I will occasionally take someone off a Twitter list. I have had people unfriend and un-link from me, and even if I understand why, it still stings.

When business relationships end uncomfortably, you may be tempted to disconnect on social media.

DON’T! Instead…

  1. Wait for the happy ending! Even if you feel bad now, your ire will likely dissipate with the passing of time. You connected/worked with that person for a reason, likely because they added value to your life and work in some way. If you stay connected, your story could have a better resolution. Earlier this week, a former business connection reached out to me with an apology. This friend and once-partner apologized and took responsibility for his “stuff” related to our parting. He told me he would have made the same choice if the tables had been turned. I have had many moments of second guessing my choice to end our partnership — staying connected allowed for this re-connection and healing of our friendship. Now we can move on to a stronger connection — which would not have been possible if I had disconnected.
  2. Look for the value you can add. If you stay connected, you may find ways to make a difference, ways that heal your previously uncomfortable relationship. After choosing to step away from working with a client, I kept retweeting her. I truly enjoy her as a person and am glad when I can find ways to help her. By maintaining a positive outlook instead of focusing on difficulty, you can and will add value for others, even after troubles.
  3. Be open to how others can give to you. By staying connected, even after conflict, you are leaving a door of opportunity open to receive from others. Even if it seems impossible now, you may be amazed by the benefits of staying connected, even to people who have disappointed or hurt you.

Tell me something! What benefits do you see in staying connected when relationships sour? How have you been surprised by happy endings?

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About Becky Robinson

I am the owner of Weaving Influence and the leader of the Weaving Influence team. We help authors and thought leaders grow their online influence. I am also a wife and mom of three daughters, and I enjoy running, reading, writing, a good cup of coffee, and dark chocolate.

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What People Are Saying

  • Some great ways to handle the inevitable conflict of social media communications…

  • Sometimes when I disconnect from a relationship, it’s the healthy thing to do. But more often, I find, my disconnecting usually comes from a sore ego. Underneath anger is pain. Underneath pain is hurt. And underneath hurt is love. You hurt because you care about the other person. If you didn’t care about them, it wouldn’t bother you in the least when they slight you.

    Good post!

    • Ego is tough. I hope I will be able to discern wisely when it’s healthy to disconnect and when to persevere!

  • Wise words, Becky. You never know when you might really need someone in your life again. It’s sad when i see certain people continually trim people from their life. It could result i a lonely future.

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